“Sick Biz is an organization dedicated to providing support, resources, hacks, and hope to entrepreneurs affected by chronic illness, pain, disability, and sickness.”
I recently started a new company, which I hope will help many other entrepreneurs like me. After I got sick, I had to reinvent myself and there were few resources to help.
Sick Biz is trying to change that.
Our podcast is booked for six month’s straight, and we have 20+ guest bloggers lined up. Our branding and the logo mocks should be done today.
We will be featured in a major business magazine.
The development of this business gives my pain purpose.
If you are someone, or if you know someone who could benefit and needs support, please send refer them to this article.
Here is the link to the Sick Biz Facebook group. Please spread the word to help other entrepreneurs.
The world is not against you.
The strength of your struggles has everything to do with your attitude.
Yesterday, I logged into my bank account and saw a weird charge. I knew I hadn’t been to Chicago in the last couple of hours, but I thought maybe I had bought something online I had forgotten about over the past weekend.
Let’s face it…life is a blur many days. It takes everything to slow the ride and decipher the mosaic of action, people, events, everything!
But paying attention paid off. Literally.
After interrogating my family to see if I was crazy (always a fun exercise!) I figured that purchase was bunk.
Cue calling the bank and filing a claim. In the five mins that passed, another purchase had registered to my account. Apparently, I was witness to an unfolding shopping spree. How thrilling! What fun that sounded like! It was interesting to see where people would spend my money.
I guess we were headed to buy beach apparel next.
When was the last time I had been to the beach?
I stopped further shenanigans in the midst of finding a collar for the cat’s fat neck, threatening my hair into a presentable shape and losing the connection with the claim department, all while coaxing a cat on a leash out the door shepherded by my lion-heart daughter.
She is unflappable.
Now, in the car, we called the claims department, I punched in the address on Lauren’s phone, so we could get Monkey to the vet eye clinic, profusely apologizing to the lady at the bank on my phone for Monkey’s incessant yowling every five seconds.
My account was frozen.
Including all cards.
How was I going to pay the vet?
I dug out an ancient check, Deacon had told me to put in my wallet in case of such emergencies, calmly combating the side-eye the receptionist leveled at me as I explained sheepishly that my name might not match my driver’s license EXACTLY because I had been married last year.
OMG…how shady did that sound?
Long story short(ened).
In the past, I would have announced the universe was out to get me…that I had brought on such energy because I “had it coming,” that my very existence had warranted “bad luck.”
Instead, I went home, worked my tail off, and gave thanks for the ability to pay for our precious Monkey’s eye.
I, too, turned unflappable and was able to handle whatever was thrown at me because sometimes we are supposed to pause.
Grateful. I stopped a binge in motion! It could have been so much worse (and so much more work.)
The pharmacy called and said they had the second medication for my pet monkey. LMAO. The lady on the phone and I had a good, ongoing laugh as she processed my order.
No one is out to get you. No energy is meant to swallow you up. Unless you let it.
As I have told my children growing up, “You will be as miserable as you want to be for as long as you want to be.”
It can turn a day that could tank your spirits into an amusing adventure.
How will you frame your day today?
However it shakes out, you are in control.
Never doubt it. The world has conspired to help you succeed. But sometimes you won’t know the direction.
You will think the direction is not for you because it is not where you want to go. But it just may be where you are supposed to go.
Where you are called.
Every situation is an opportunity for empowerment.
Seize the day and make it yours.
The people I work with in my career as a writer and editor are so cool. Many of them are business owners and entrepreneurs and half the time they act as my own legion of life coaches! As a result, I am privy to innovative thought processes and unique ways of surmounting obstacles.
I also stumble upon content that pushes my own continual healing. Personally, I do a ton of writing on learning to eliminate self-limiting beliefs and examining how our pasts can fuel our emotional rehab.
After a certain amount of internal work has been accomplished; I’m talking decades of counseling, tapping into the gift of changing your mindset and figuring out how to handle compulsions and urges in the form of eating disorders and anxiety tendencies, you can start to chip away at your own self-awareness.
How do other people see my responses? (Not from a standpoint of needing their validation), but to gather intel on how you can be more compassionate, for example).
- Do I understand my triggers?
- Do I know how to rationally react to these triggers?
- What do you believe you are capable of accomplishing?
- How do you define your limitations?
I don’t want to give anything else away, but I did take a test, which took me deeper into evaluating particular habits and beliefs about myself than I would have dissected on my own. I had never taken a test like this, asking these sorts of questions and it spurred my self-examination. I’ve always wanted to ask myself these questions so I could think about how far I’ve come in my healing journey. But I never knew what the questions would be. It’s always valuable to gauge our progress and so I seized the opportunity.
But why is understanding our self-awareness important to our emotional health?
Let me give you an example. My childhood was rough; it didn’t offer a lot of security and when we are plunged into and restrained in survival mode, this is how we think long-term. It is how we plan. We use this method like we flex a muscle. Our every decision has a desperate root. We can’t move out of simply reacting quickly to situations and triggers. I was not self-aware during this time. I was furious and devastated and terrified because there was no motionless core to which I could anchor. I didn’t care how I affected people when I spoke, or through my actions. Half of my responses were couched in the subconscious need to receive some kind of frickin’ validation that I was worth anything. Truly, I could have given a crap less about the feelings I influenced in others.
After many years of counseling and answering the need in me to heal on a consistent circuit of self-revelation as I build confidence and internal work, I can now say, I care about people’s feelings.
I care about my own self-awareness, too, and I use questions like these to push my healing even further.
Understanding our limitations is critical because it frames our confidence. Knowing your triggers allows you to plan for your deliberate reaction, and it gives you invaluable information about yourself.
I believe that triggers, when confronted are actually our biggest avenues to emotional prosperity. When we define and accept our fears, we can develop plans to move past them, to practice making them smaller and less damaging to our lives. We can have internal conversations with ourselves about being afraid and identifying where fear comes from, that we are humans and instead of seeking to avoid, we can use our histories to teach us, and when we get stronger…we can teach others what has worked for us as well.
I am not denying there are triggers that are paralyzing and traumatizing, but I am a believer in finding the solution to not overcome what we have been exposed to, (because we will never be the same) but to compartmentalize our experiences to our benefit. We can use visualization to shrink terror. We can reason through fright. Because education is the antidote to fear, right?
It is possible to get better. To feel less pain.
We can help other survivors. But before we do, we need to hone our own insight into our self-awareness and realize the vital role it plays in our positive emotional health. I am not a counselor or therapist. My full-time job has been progressive healing. These perspectives have worked for me and that is why I share them. To help people recover from the wounds of their past.
Original article appeared at Huffington Post. Reprinted with permission.
I am taking my first business trip to go to the Success Live event with my publisher. This is the first time I will have traveled since getting sick with transverse myelitis, since learning a trip to Target could double as a marathon. So…I am taking my darling daughter, Lauren as my assistant. She and I will be flying into LAX and staying in Long Beach right near the ocean.
This is a big deal for me as I will be getting the message out about Sick Biz, seeking sponsorship and hearing some of the most inspirational minds speak.
I am a little concerned about all the traveling with the physical challenges I face, but we will use a chair when needed and I will have my trusty golden cane, Deacon, my husband, refers to as Goldenrod.
I know I can do this and I want to lead by example that we can all do things that scare us.
It doesn’t matter what they are…it doesn’t matter what challenges we face…we are the ones who are always in our own way.
So, I am removing those obstacles in my mind and in my tangible life and doing as I advise those who are afraid…focusing on the action.
It’s like I told the kids when they were younger and learning to do chores. “I know how you feel about the dishes, but it doesn’t matter because it still needs to be done.”
This mission needs to go on. The dissemination of the message needs to be done.
I can work anywhere. I can do anything. I can serve anyone, and I can grow this initiative in ways of which I am not even aware.
To have a publisher and professional, proven people stand behind our organization in support of this mission to help such a very special demographic, is mind-blowing. It is happening and I am happily freaking out, but it feels like the universe is also aligning.
Like I can see more clearly.
I am grateful to be the vessel.
I read somewhere that sometimes gold is used to reinforce cracks in broken pottery. What if we all viewed ourselves this way?
What if we all walked into the darkness because it was the way to our brightest light? To the gifts, we all can bring to the world?
That we have a responsibility to manifest?
As soon as the decision was made in our minds and hearts that Lauren and I could do this…the universe aligned profitably.
I know we can do this…we are spreading the message and the reason with love.
We are helping our very first entrepreneur!
We thrive off your support!
My heart is opening even wider to receive what people need.
Every day we learn what our roles are in this world. We are all deserving creatures.
Compassion is what people need. No matter who you are, what you do, where you live, what you look like. We are all human and deserving of care.
In fact, we crave it!
I never thought I would learn strength and empowerment from my baby girl.
I never thought I would learn to be supported ceaselessly through love, laughter and cheer, after years of receiving disposable treatment. I expand in love every day now.
How did I get so lucky?
We are on the road to helping more entrepreneurs reach their dreams. To spreading their messages so they, too, can ripple outward and improve our planet.
I have never been more honored to be an instrument of the universe.
Please spread the message of Sick Biz, and how we can help sick and disabled entrepreneurs through lending a hand to improve their strategies, executions, and finances through a collaborative community of support.
The title of my book will be Sick Success! Thank you to everyone who contributed their thoughts. Now to work on the subtitle. The description is due this week.
#LABound #sicksuccess #unstoppable #bethechange
Photo credit and fantastic artwork: Hilary Jastram
Nothing compares to you…new authors.
From my client and first-time author:
“Second draft back from the editor. This is what she wrote.
‘Readers will FLY through this book as they glean their needed lessons because it is a nimble and memorable work.’
Blown away and super excited 😊
Good morning, loves!
Here’s my view this morning as we start this day.
After an eventful week, and offering compassion to people going through various trauma, a thought occurs.
Do you know what is a surprising part of self-care?
Giving yourself permission to disengage and even saying no to the things, actions and words that other people say or do.
We often think of self-care as taking actions like slowing down, catching a pocket of peace, indulging in a hot shower and eating well. These are habits we can practice to care for our mental well-being, but so is saying no. It prevents rising stress.
I am usually a “yes” woman but am learning it is okay to not only say no but to push out deadlines and expectations, so people are not disappointed.
I used to wake up every day not feeling enough, not feeling particularly special.
I remember 16 years ago, driving to work and rounding out the work day glued to the TV on a squeaky cart.
The reminder of this country’s devastation and horror spurs memories of where we have come.
What were you doing on this day?
How has your life changed?
Do you like the direction your life is going now?
My life is unrecognizable. I could never have guessed I would be here. In this house, with my hubby, my children all living very different lives. That I would not be working for others, but in rampant excitement for my own dream.
Are you working for your dreams? Are you ignoring what you really want to do because of fear? Because it is so challenging to say no to other people and so there is nothing left for you?
Are you in the grip of toxic people who don’t think about you and what you need? Who don’t care about how you feel? How you are affected? Who make it their priority to hurt you?
I understand. And while I have sad days because of these necessary changes I’ve had to make, my life is so much better.
Whatever you need to do, you can.
I have spoken with many people on the impacts they allow in their lives. From CA to MN and places in between, the commonality this week is self-sacrifice to our own detriment.
It is being afraid to ask for help in case we might seem weak.
Do you know what is harder than giving?
It is okay on the anniversary of this tragedy, as a survivor of the hurricanes or fires or regular ol’ freakin’ trauma (nothing regular or simple about it), to ASK. Most people are good. Accommodating, compassionate, loving and are waiting to help.
Let’s expand our self-care to include our right to peace from toxicity and judgment. You want to be accepted and loved.
Tell yourself you are and then BAM…you will be.
But what holds us back from proclaiming we are enough?
Maybe believing we are not experts of ourselves? Then who else is? There is no one more vested as deeply as you to care for you, to run your defense. It is okay to believe you have the answers in your heart and gut.
Let’s close with a bullet list for the week:
>Keep going even when no one is clapping.
>Reject negative energy and treatment.
>Say no to owning anyone else’s drama and pain. You are responsible for you only.
>Self-love converts to dynamic confidence.
>You are your expert.
>Work on asking and receiving.
>Say no when you are at max capacity.
>Working consistently will get you to success.
>Rest, don’t stop.
>Vulnerability is the new strength.
>People are mostly good.
>Retrain your negativity by changing your thoughts.
Now, let’s get after it. I have a massive week ahead and many goals to nail.
I know you are staring down the same barrel.
So, deep breath, one task at a time. Choose your nearest deadline first, then clobber it!
Take joy in checking off those to-dos and all the creature comforts that arise from slaying.
Feel your confidence in your purpose. One foot in front of the other.
No one is more capable than you of running and elevating your life. No one else has your tools, experience or history. Do your best with the tools you have, then push yourself out of your comfort zone. Do just one intimidating thing—dominate it!
Ignore your fear and laser focus on the action. I promise you will be so proud of yourself and this is fuel for the next step!
Let’s get after it.
I believe in YOU. <3
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Photo credit: Hilary Jastram